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Maneless - possible truce

From: Bill
Date: 29 May 2001
Time: 23:43:21
Remote Name: 207.151.89.6

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Maneless, I was very polite to you last night, twice, and you went off on me both times. I am taking the matter into my own hands. This is gonna stop one way or the other. I am very much prepared to make you look as ridiculous as you want to look.

However, it is not what I want to do. These forums are for the good of everybody. We have been tolerant of you for the past 2 years. At some point, you need to be disciplined and shown that enough is enough.

That being said, I am still willing to talk to you privately. If you don't want to talk to me or you are not yet ready to talk about your problem, I can understand. But inflicting every one else here with it is not the answer. Go buy yourself a punching bag, and put a big BILL on it, and go to town. Or go running on the beach or on the track, until you can't move a muscle. These are physical exertions that allow you to release the anger. Do it as often as you need to.

Whether anyone else knows it or not, I know that your main problem is not your hairloss, or women. The type of anger you have is always directed at a very specific event. I suspect it centers around your wife and her leaving you. So you want to get back at all women.

Perhaps she did leave you because of your hairloss, and you still have yet to get over the hurt. I can feel for you. But men are even more superficial when it comes to looks. But there are also a decent amount of both men and women who are not like that. Lack of hair is not the reason you have no one. It may cut down on some, but basically the ones you would not have wanted in the first place, once you got to know them.

I have most of my hair. You can ask Ali about that if you do not believe me - I know you like to think I am bald. But you know, I can still EMPATHIZE (understand because I have experienced it) with you, but just from a different angle.

I think we can both agree that baldness is certainly not conducive to getting a gal - no woman really prefers baldness. With any undesirable trait, what makes it hard is the precentage of people who also have the same trait. For example, if all men were bald, we might still hate that look, but we would be at no disadvantage with women, because they would not have a choice to have a man with hair.

I happen to stand a whopping 5'4". Before Asians and Latins started coming to Southern California, I was just about the shortest guy around. There were an awful lot more bald men than there were white men as small as me. I did have a lot of other things going for me. I have a cute face, good personality, intelligent, and athletic, but suffice it to say, I had my achilles heel as well. I was really short, and I have never heard a woman describing her ideal looks that she wanted him to be 5'4" tall - LOL. So suffice it to say, that is not a desirable trait, if you want to get women.

There was more than once when I heard guys say to me "boy, i am glad i am not as short as you", like you would when you see a crippled person or whatever. They weren't trying to be mean, they just blurted out their real feelings without thinking. But this made it worse, because I knew that they really meant it, and now were just trying to weasel out of it. Luckily, no gal ever said that to me - LOL.

I was self-conscious about that even into college, until I had a 6'0" gal on the volleyball team ask me out. She even outweighed me - LOL. Today it bothers me zilch, and I get tall girls flirting with me all the time.

Now you might say that you would rather be short and have your hair back. I don't doubt that you believe this is true. We all grow up to hate something about ourselves bad enough, that we think we would be willing to have some sort of other bad trait instead. But I wonder how many 6'4" bald guys would feel about losing a foot in exchange for their hair. It would be an interesting experiment.

The point is, that through hard work, I overcame that insecurity. I would not want to be tall if they could magically make me taller, because it would change my look from what I have been accustomed to my whole life. I have a little boy look, and still get attention from teenage gals. If I was big, I would lose that appeal, at least in that way.

You will almost certainly get your hair back in the reasonably near future. Mark my words - I HAVE BEEN THE ONLY POSTER ON THIS SITE WHO HAS NOT STRAYED FOR ONE SECOND IN HIS BELIEF THAT HM IS THE ONE AND ONLY ONE SOLUTION TO TRULY HAVE A FULL HEAD OF HAIR.

Try to work on the real underlying problem that you have. It is much more than your hairloss. That is an easy thing to blame when you are not ready, but when you are ready, you will be willing to admit that that is not the main core of your anger.

It is up to you. If you insist on making every post about how horrible women are, then I will be right behind you counting, and telling everyone how wonderful women are, or you can behave, like I know you are capable, and have me for a friend if you want one. Your choice.

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